While these could be actual people in your life, I’ve realized they are actually three voices that live inside all of us. Understanding who is driving the car at any given moment is the secret to a balanced life.
In the journey of personal development, I’ve started categorizing the people I meet into three distinct archetypes. I call them ryan reid bella
Reid builds systems that last. He turns "dreams" into "deadlines." If you need to get out of debt, write a book, or build a deck, you call Reid. While these could be actual people in your
Bella often forgets herself. She is so busy taking care of Ryan’s ego and Reid’s stress that she burns out. She says "yes" when she desperately needs to say "no." I call them Reid builds systems that last
"Hope is not a strategy." 3. Bella: The Connector (The "Who") Bella is the glue. In the boardroom, she is the emotional intelligence. In the friend group, she is the one who remembers your birthday and your coffee order. Bella isn't necessarily "soft"—she is strategically empathetic.
Why you need the Planner, the Builder, and the Heart in your life (and in yourself).